Looking back throughout my high school years, I wish I knew even a fraction of what a do now. The last few years have been a significant period for growth and learning. Now, having graduated with a degree, moving into the “adult” world, working within my field and tackling many firsts, I have been looking back and reflecting.
So, here’s some the things I wish I could have told that nervous girl trying to find her place in this world and her true self.
Dear Young Alexis,
If only I could have told you the following…
- Follow your gut: You know more than you think you do and ultimately, only you know how you feel.
- It’s okay to be afraid: Sometimes your brain may be telling you to bail out because you are scared of the unknown, but your gut says to do it. Often, these are the best decisions to say yes to. Push through and dive in… within reason of course.
- If it doesn’t work out, just learn from it and move on: Don’t take everything so seriously. You will survive, you will learn and grow.
- Adventure! You will blink and so much time will have gone by. Get out there, explore, and live life to the fullest, whether it’s doing something new in your hometown or somewhere far away.
- Be kind to yourself: Honestly, I am still working on this, but the love I have for myself is a lot stronger than what it was a few years ago. The way you look at yourself matters and it will influence the way others treat and respect you.
- Surround yourself with only positive people: Toxic people and toxic relationships will only hinder your growth and happiness. Life is too short to deal with drama.
- Find best friends who will challenge you: This has been such a huge learning lesson. Without the group of friends I have now, I would be such a different person. Find people who will push you, who will question you and who will call you out. These people will make you stronger, better and much more humble.
- Travel: Whether it’s a few hours from your home town or across the world. The Earth is so big and has so many amazing places and people to meet.
- Learn to love yourself first: Love yourself first. Learn to respect yourself in a way that sets the tone for how you want and DESERVE to be treated.
- Find comfort in being single: You don’t need a significant other to be happy, and it definitely does not define your value whether you have one or not.
- Take time to focus on your mental health: There are enough pressures and obstacles in this world, the last thing you need is to make things tougher on yourself by neglecting your needs. This doesn’t make you selfish, this allows you to do and be so much more for everyone around you.
- Never dull your desire to learn: Yes, learning seems like a lot of work and potentially expensive but you see an incredibly different and more beautiful way of looking at the world.
- Most importantly, believe in yourself: You are stronger, smarter and capable of way more than you realize. With hard work, grit, and perseverance you have the potential to reach even your wildest dreams.
Girl, do I wish I could have given you a big hug and told you this over and over again.